Decision?

I was going through old emails in my account and I came across this article entitled, "Love is a Decision". If I am not mistaken, the inspiration was Runaway Bride.

From the moment I read that mail a few years back, I started to define love as a decision people make. It may be the strongest feeling we feel as human beings but I rationalized that we only start to feel that way when we choose to love a person. Going farther on this thread, love becomes more of a decision when the relationship starts to enter the rocky stages yet a decision is made to stick it out and hang tight through the rough patches

But years have passed and while I still believe that love is indeed a decision, I have also began to entertain questions on the wisdom of this belief.

Is it possible to "unmake" this decision? I mean, I there are times I come across people who are still very much in love with old (ex) partners. Partners who were the very reason for the rivers of tears cried, sleepless nights and overall heartbreak nightmares. And when asked, these people seem powerless to be free from the shadow of this past love.

It's sad. Perhaps both for the lover and the loved. The lover who can't break free despite calling on divine help and chanelling all willpower to being free and for the loved who is missing out on this possibly great love.

Would it be too much to ask to rekindle past loves if one is still in love?

Is it wishful thinking on my part? Empathy for the lover? Maybe it is really just my basic nature to desire happiness for all people.